90 Days and 90 Nights

90 Days and 90 Nights


Not until we are lost do we begin to find ourselvesHenry David Thoreau

Day 90

If an ordinary person took a look at my life, they would say that it is great. I just graduated and earned my degree; I am the single mom of five incredible kids, my career at ASU allows me to interact with fantastic students, I am surrounded by wonderful friends and I am now in grad school. Looking back on all that I’ve been through, including all of the turmoil and painful experiences, I am amazed at how far I have come.

So why do I allow small things to derail me? Why do I allow personal relationships to mess with my head and cause me stress and anxiety? Where is the strength and faith I have leaned upon so many times when facing tough situations? This is not me, this is not who I am. I desire better, so why do I tolerate putting myself in this place again and again? I get so emotionally invested, that I find myself sometimes looking at my own life through a lens of discontent and sadness instead of appreciating all of the growth that I have made as a person.

After several sleepless nights and many conversations crying to my friends, I have come to the conclusion that I have had enough and  I am tired of feeling this way. Tired of the sadness and exhausted from the pessimism. I refuse to do this anymore!

So, as a result, I am trying something different. I have decided to take the next 90 days to gain some clarity and insight. I will focus on what is truly important in my life and share my views with truth and sarcasm on what makes me happy and what doesn’t.  I will sort through the mistakes I’ve made in order to learn and hopefully help others, to not repeat the same behaviors which have caused me to be in this emotional chaos. As I go through this process, I have also decided that I will not seek out or engage in any new relationships with men other than friendship. This time is set aside to be just me, figuring out me.

In addition to my  rants, a close male friend of mine will be a guest blogger to give a male outlook on various things, and his perspective on my thoughts and craziness.


So, please join me on my journey, I value your thoughts and feedback!!!






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  • Diana

    ❤️It Judy!!!

  • Sandy M. Ochoa

    I love you mucho my sweet sister Juju. I am here for you, proud of you, and I celebrate with you. You’re a treasure of our family.

  • Lyle

    very very wise, you’ll never find what you need in others

  • Elisa

    Thank you for sharing! I can already relate. You are not alone! <3

  • Roshawna

    I will ride from a distance on this journey with you. Everyone has that right partner out there waiting to meet us. In order for him to find us, we need to find ourselves first. I completely understand & I can relate as well. By you embarking on your on journey, it will help others to do the same. I can’t wait to continue to read your blogs. What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger…

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